Long Distance Date Ideas: 23 Activities For Tonight! (UPDATED)
How amazing does it feel when you hear the Skype incoming call music and see your partner's face in the notification. While separated by distance this feeling will never fade but sometimes your Skype date night can become a bit repetitive.
Question: How many times do you think you've spoken about the same things on each call?
Probably too many to remember!
It's time to change up the usual Skype sessions with one or more of the 23 awesome long distance relationship date night ideas we've put together for you and your partner. Enjoy!
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1. Watch a Movie in Sync!
This is definitely one of the best ways to relax with your partner without even being next to them. It can also help you get to know them that little bit more by paying attention to the types of genres they're into!
Agree on a movie you'll both enjoy but don't forget to step out of your comfort zone for your partner if there is something they'd really like to watch or get you to see.
Check out our Article: 37 Popcorn Worthy LDR Movies For Your Next Date Night
YOU: "Ok on 'three' hit play, ready?"
YOU: "One... Two... Thr-CLICK!"
*Que 20th Century Fox music*
I wouldn't be able to count how many movies we watched this way together.
But thankfully now there are a few handy options to watch videos online perfectly in sync with your partner. Here are four great options:
NETFLIX, Hulu, HBOGo & more. You can even browse the web together!
Limited only to YouTube BUT also allows you to upload your own files. WIN!
Watch movies from the Synaptop Theatre, listen to music, create playlists and even play games!
Watch YouTube, Vimeo and DailyMotion videos with chat and even voting options.
2. Take an Online Compatibility Test
While some people may think these types of tests are corny or cheesy (I'm hungry...), they can be quiet fun and beneficial for couples in long distance relationships.
Our situations aren't like the majority of relationships. The distance between us may keep some traits hidden and a compatibility test can help to discover what those things are, helping to bring you both closer together.
You may also be thinking "Are we right for each other?", well it's time to find out! Here are five great options.
3. Getting Intimate
Cue Salt 'n' Pepa "Let's talk about sexy baby, let's talk about you and me."
Tip: Just like any regular sexual relationship, you wouldn't want your partner to push you to do things you're not comfortable with. Before moving forward with any electronic sexual activity it's important to talk about and respect each other's boundaries.
Studies have shown that couples who are sexually active are happier. While this doesn't appear to be revolutionary information, it does reinforce the importance of sex in a healthy relationship.
Being in a long distance relationship doesn't mean your sex life has to suffer. Sexting, phone sex and webcam sex are great options for keeping that romantic spark alight.
These intimate options will come easier to some more than others. So we've put together a few resources to help!
It doesn't matter where or when, sexting is a great way to stay on each other's minds. Whether you're looking for something simple and sweet or downright raunchy, it's up to you and your partner on how far you're willing to take it!
- Elite Daily - The do's and don'ts of sexting
- Cosmopolitan - 10 things guys really want you to sext
- Art of Charm - How to start sexting a girl - What every guy must know
- College Humor - 16 sexting noobs who totally killed the mood
Type 'phone sex' into Google and you're met with a fairly cold description.
Yeah, thanks Google... For those of us in Long Distance Relationships 'sexual gratification' just doesn't cut it. Phone sex can be so much more as you're connecting with your partner on a romantic and intimate level.
Don't let this deter you! Here are some helpful hints and tips:
- WikiHow - How to have phone sex
- The Urban Dater - 7 tips on how to give your partner great phone sex
- Savvy Miss - What to say during phone sex
Webcam sex can definitely be a fun an intense experience. But it is very important to know exactly what you're getting into.
Lisa McKay of ModernLoveLongDistance.com has written a great article we believe all LDR couples should read before jumping in front of the camera: Two common myths about webcam sex, revenge porn, and long distance relationships.
Still wanting to get steamy on Skype? Bad Girl's Bible has a thorough guide for having amazing sex on Skype with your partner.
Long Distance Sex Toys
Adding toys into your intimate equation can be an exciting experience.
With advancements in technology, connected toys for couples are now an affordable option.
One company leading the way is Lovense.com. They've been creating amazing products for years and continue to develop the technology behind their products.
We also admire them as they're an LGBTQ+ friendly company as same sex products are able to connect to each other!
Visit the Lovense official site for more information. They also regularly run great promotions so be sure to see if one is available!
Check out their short clip below on how the system works.
Other companies that create sex toys for long distance relationships that are worth noting include:
Check out our article: 17 Weird to Wonderful LDR Gadgets
4. Take a Virtual Vacation
You don't have to be on location to get lost in wanderlust.
Share the places you and your partner have always wanted to travel to. You never know, this could be the early stages of planning your first vacation together!
Here are some virtual vacation websites that you can pair with Rabbit to share your screen and take a virtual trip!
Tour places in your state or country that you'd like your partner to discover, or be their virtual tour guide showing them around your home town.
This can create some amazing moments when you close the distance or visit one another and can remember the places you viewed together online.
Nate is from a desert town in the middle of Australia and I still remember the first time he showed me where he grew up on Google Maps. Completely opposite scenery from my hometown in Canada!
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5. Virtual Reality Date Night
When we talk aboutvirtual reality, we usually think gaming. But there are many other applications in education, entertainment and exploration.
VR has also never been more affordable, making virtual reality date nights a must try.
6. Truth or Dare
If your Skype dates are lacking a bit of flair then a game of truth or dare could be what you need to step it up!
Make sure you both respect each other's boundaries otherwise a game that is fun or cheeky can quickly turn into an awkward situation of silence.
IceBreakerIdeas.com has a great list of 200+ truth or dare questions that range from cute and silly all the way through to saucy and sexy!
Be aware that only some of these will work due to your distance. Want us at Lasting The Distance to create a list of truth or dare questions specifically for couples in long distance relationships? Let us know with a tweet!
Yes @ltdistance, please create a list of truth or dare questions for couples in #longdistancerelationships #ldr
7. Take a Quiz & Compare!
Similar to compatibility tests, quizzes can be a great activity to help you discover more about your partner.
Whether you're looking to be serious or have a little fun. There are countless quizzes throughout the internet that you can use. Here are a couple we like!
None of these tickle your fancy? Why not create your own?
If you have been in a LDR for a while, you could quiz your partner with questions about yourself, your family or your relationship. If you want to spice it up a bit, give them a reward when the question is answered correctly!
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8. Have a Coffee Shop Date
A coffee shop date is one of the closest options you've got to a real date. With both of you on Skype, at your favourite coffee shop's in a quiet(ish) corner with your headphones. What else could you want?
Ok, maybe to be WITH your loved one but hey, no one said it would be easy!
Can you remember the last time you walked past a coffee shop and didn't see a hoard of people sipping their drinks while tapping away on their keyboards?
So I wouldn't worry about feeling awkward when talking to your partner on Skype with a bunch of people around! Lets be honest, the majority of them are locked in to what they're doing.
9. Dinner Date
Having a dinner date while eating the same food with a similar setup can give the illusion of being together.
We've seen forums and other sites suggest take out for a dinner date as it's a fairly easy option. But if you want to go that one step further why not cook your favourite dishes together!
TIP: If you're in opposing time zones try to choose dishes that work well for both breakfast and dinner.
How cool does the photo above look? An LDR couple sitting down to an amazing meal they cooked 'together'.
That's Reddit user u/melodyamypond and her boyfriend u/eztofollow. These two LDR love birds have perfected the art of "synchronised cooking". You can read more about their weekly dinner dates here.
10. Watch the Sunrise or Sunset
Watching a sunrise or sunset is definitely one of the more romantic date options available to LDR couples.
Depending on your timezones and work or school schedules find out which is more appropriate. Your partner might not be the most enthusiastic morning person so working out which is best will help to end any cancellations!
Make sure you each set calendar alerts and use a site like TimeandDate.com to find out the sunrise and sunset times in your city. Then use their time difference calculator to determine when you and your partner need to be available.
11. Make a Playlist
We've all had those songs that remind us of amazing times or getting through tough situations. Sharing them with your partner can be a great way of getting to know pivotal moments in each other's lives.
But you don't have to stop at music, why not create playlists for books, documentaries or even movies!
We've found some great guides on setting up playlists for the various options:
Check out our article: 28 Powerful LDR Songs For Your Next Playlist
12. Write an Email to your Future-selves
Have any moments in your relationship or personal life you'd like to reminisce over with your partner at a later date? Why not send an email to your future-selves.
FutureMe.org is a simple tool that will send an email on a specific date. You can even add a picture! We'd also suggest you make it private if you're adding sensitive content.
On when to receive the email, pick a date that is meaningful to both of you. This could be a birthday, anniversary, Valentine's Day or when you close the distance.
Make sure to keep it positive and hopeful. Choose a future date that's over 6 months away as you're likely to forget most of what you've written, and the better the surprise will be!
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13. Play Strip Poker
Feel like spicing your date night up a bit? Why don't you have a crack at playing a few hands of strip poker and see where it takes you!
We recommend using a site like PokerStars.net's 'home games' option where you can set up a private table for just you and your partner.
I'd shy away from using a deck of cards each because of the stakes, you could be leaning towards bending the rules a little in your favour!
Don't do that... be fair and have fun!
14. Play Games Online
It's been said that couples who have fun together are happier together and gaming definitely falls inline with having fun!
You can choose games where you can team up against others or find ones where you can battle each other. But in the end make sure you pick something that you'll both enjoy.
Not sure what you want play? No worries. Here we've broken down a few options based on level of involvement:
Smartphones allow us to keep in contact with our loved ones 24/7, so why not add a bit of competition. Games like Words With Friends [iOS - Android] and Draw Something [iOS - Android] are great to pick up when you get a free moment.
Or you can get stuck into more tactical MMOs (Massive Multiplayer Online) games. Check out MMO Attack's top 10 list of mobile MMOs for iOS and Android.
Have an Xbox, PlayStation, Wii or PC? Studies have shown connecting and communicating in games through emotional experiences can strengthen a couple's bond through shares experiences.
Natalie Shoemaker from The Cheat Sheet has put together five awesome games for long distance couples for multiple platforms.
15. Draw Together
Not all of us can be Picasso but we can damn try! Or if you want to just doodle around and make funny pictures to kill time that's totally cool too...
Don't forget you can be totally old school cool and draw on paper on Skype together. Send us your creations and we just might set up a gallery!
16. Write Your Story
No crazy tools necessary, grab a pen and paper or open a word doc and start writing!
Although you and your partner no doubt have a lot of similarities, you will always view or remember most situations differently. As you recount stories from your relationship to each other you'll start to realise the things just how different your perspectives can be!
We all put importance into different aspects of the relationship and realising this will really help when it comes to truly understanding one another.
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17. Make a List
One area we'd always speak about is all the things we wanted to do together. Whether it be places to travel, things to purchase, to dos when we would meet up, there was always something we could prepare for together.
TIP: Use Google Sheets or another online tool so you can both collaborate on the list in real time. This will make it easier if you're incorporating website links or building a budget.
Something we didn't explore but still think is an amazing idea are more personal lists. How nice would it be to share what you love about your partner on their birthday or Valentine's Day?
18. Sing Karaoke Together
For many people karaoke can be a nerve racking experience. But if you're willing to let your guard down it can be a lot of fun to sing with your partner.
You never know, you might find one of you has a hidden talent!
Why not try Sing! Karaoke an iOS and Android app by Smule. You can record yourself singing then invite your partner to sing along with you and sync them together! Unfortunately the app doesn't allow you to sing in real time together but the recording feature will no doubt produce many laughs and smiles.
If you don't want to be singing over the top of each other look for duets. Why not try the classic "Ain't no Mountain High Enough" by Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell.
19. Visit Random Websites
Have some time to kill? Why not explore parts of the web to find interesting sites and articles you wouldn't usually come across.
StumbeUpon is a great option as you can either select your interests, so you will only see things you're both interested in, or you can fly completely blind!
We'd recommend using it in tandem with Skype, Google Hangouts or Rabbit's screen sharing capabilities so you can your partner are in sync. Other options for finding random parts of the internet include:
Also check out BuzzFeed's article - 35 random corners of the internet you should visit when you need a break.
20. Play With Animals Online
While separated by distance you'll often talk about the future. Things like the apartment you'll rent, the places you'll travel to and the pets you'll own will come up many times.
Unfortunately this can leave us unhappy as it's not 'right now'. One way to turn that frown upside down is to help bring a bit of excitement and joy into a shelter animal's day by playing with them online.
Check out the Petcube where you can control the toys in a shelter and play with the animals in real time from their app!
Who knows, when you close the distance you just might adopt a pet from one of those shelters!
21. Learn Together
For some people learning something new can be a daunting task, even if it's what they've wanted to try for years. Having a partner in crime can help with motivation while making the learning process way more enjoyable.
You'll also learn a lot about how you and your partner work together when working through and solving tough problems.
Tip: Make sure, what ever you choose, it's something you'll both enjoy otherwise motivation levels can flatline! Don't rush into it, take the time to find the right thing.
Learn a Language
Does your partner speak a second language? Taking the time to learn will show just how much you care about them and their culture, also having them by your side to help the learning process.
Learn to Code
The tech movement is at an all time high and everyone is talking about learning to code. Why not join in? Codecademy and Code School are great free options to get you started. Want to take some more design centric courses? Take a look at Treehouse.
22. Plan Your Next Visit
Because of the distance between us and our partners we tend to put a lot of stress on the next visit. Who'll visit who? When can we both get time off? How much will it cost? If only these were the only three questions you'd be asking yourselves!
Plan as much of the next visit as you can and if possible leave nothing to chance!
Having everything in order for departure and arrival ahead of time will alleviate unneeded stress. It doesn't matter if it's the first, last or fifteenth visit your likely to be bursting at the seems with excitement and anxiety, so planning ahead will help to make everything that little bit easier.
There's no point linking to a life hack style article on planning. Get on Skype with your partner, list everything you need to take care of for a visit, start to tick them off. GET SH!T DONE. Simple!
See date night activity #15 on making lists. This is definitely the time to use a collaboration tool like Google Docs or Google Sheets!
23. Veg out
We all have those days where we don't want to do anything in particular and just being with our partners on Skype is good enough. Especially if you've had a 'big' night!
If you're looking to lay about and not exhort too much effort we've got a few good options.
Are you and your partner fans of a good book? Why not look to Audible.com where you can both listen along to one of your favourites or explore something new. Or go old school and read separately!
Listening to music is another great way to veg out with your partner. You can listen to digital radio online through great sites like Streema. Or if you want to go that one step further check out ConcertWindow.com where you can watch live music together! This is a great website when teamed up with Rabbit.
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What Are Your Long Distance Relationship Date Night Ideas?
We've definitely put a lot of time and effort into this list of date night ideas! But of course there will be other activities that we haven't covered that you may love doing with your partner.
Have any other ideas for awesome date nights? Let us know in the comments below and we'll include the most popular activities in our next update!