LDR Care Packages: The Ultimate Guide [2021 Edition]

In this guide we're not only going to show you the best long distance relationship care package ideas. 

But also:

Everything else you need to know to make sure it arrives on time and in tact!

You're here because you want your care package to:

  • Be unexpected
  • Blow them away
  • Fill them with joy

But most of all you want it show them just how much they mean to you.

long distance relationship care package ideas

Figuring out what to put in a care package for your long distance boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse can be daunting. 

We believe we’ve gotten the process down to a science!

Here is everything you need to know about sending a care package that is bound to make them smile from ear to ear.

Why Send a Care Package?

Simply put, you should send a care package for two reason. One, it will make your partner feel good. Two, it will make you feel good!

Receiving mail in a time when everyone depends on cell phones and computers has become a rare occasion. Think about how excited you get when you receive something unexpected and awesome. That's exactly how your partner is going to feel!

Check out: The Odyssey Online's take on why receiving letters makes us feel loved.

It's also something very personal. Everything in it and the intricate details will show your partner not only the time and effort you put into it, but the lengths you're willing to go for them and the relationship.

How to Send a Care Package

A lot of planning is needed for an amazing care package. It will take a lot of time and effort, so here are our tips to making the creation process as smooth as possible.

Estimating Shipping Costs & Delivery Time

Shipping can be expensive. The cost will depend on the weight and size of the package and the distance it needs to travel. 

It's helpful to get an estimate before beginning to put your LDR care package together as you may need to change to box size or leave out certain pieces. 

Check your local post office or preferred shipping provider’s website to see your options.

We've put together a list of shipping calculators by provider and region below.

Cost of the Care Package Itself

Beyond shipping, the cost of items in a care package can add up.

The best way to avoid incurring a big expense is to plan ahead. For example, if you won’t be able to see your partner for Valentine’s Day and want to send them a care package, make a plan to buy an item each week. 

Spending a little each week until is easier than having to drop a large amount at once.

Also, don't be afraid to get your hands dirty with DIY gifts! They can help save money and add a very personal touch. 

Fragile Items

If you want to include items in your care package that could break, like a picture frame or mug, be sure to wrap it carefully.

This means using proper packing material, such as packing paper or bubble wrap.

It is best to not assume the tissue paper the cashier wrapped your mug in will be enough!

Food Care Packages

Different countries and shipping providers have varying rules, so be sure to check them out before spending your hard-earned money on something that may not get through customs.

As a guide, steer clear of homemade foods or anything that needs to be temperature controlled. Store bought food in original and sealed packaging that lists all ingredients and has a shelf life longer than 6 months should clear customs.

For more detailed information, ParcelHero.com has a great article on The Do's and Don'ts of Sending Parcels Abroad.

What to Send in a Care Package

Before we dive into specific long distance care packages, we believe there are some things that should always be included.


Words and sentiments are super important when you’re in an LDR. The message you send can vary greatly, just make sure it comes from the heart. Oh and be sure to include a list that explains what's included.


Including pictures of you or both of you together will not only bring a smile to their face, but it gives them something to display. Plus if they're unframed, they won't take up much room!

Long Distance Relationship Care Package Ideas

A "Done For You" Care Package By Huneybox

long distance relationship care packages for him and her by huneybox

If you're struggling to come up with items to include or you don't think you'll have enough time, Huneybox is here to give you peace of mind!

They have dedicated themselves and their business to helping long distance couples, friends and family make the distance between them melt away through heartfelt care packages.

There are nine long distance care packages with different themes perfect for LDR couples, they include:

  1. For Him Box
  2. For Her Box
  3. Coffee Addict Box
  4. Afternoon Tea Box
  5. The Health Nut Box
  6. Bee There For You Box
  7. Sweet Gem Box
  8. Just Bee-cause Box
  9. A Little Care Box

We love these options, they all have something unique your partner will love, but our favorite care package from Huneybox has to be the 'Build Your Own Box' option.

You can completely customize the contents if you found items in separate boxes that you'd like to include.

The Huneybox team have also included the ability to add a photo and a sweet message on the back.

For more details on the process and products, head on over to Huneybox.com.

A "Them" Themed Package

There isn’t a person in this world who wouldn’t love a care package filled with their favorite things! Fill a box with things you've found your partner loves and prepare for a gushing phone call when they receive it.

What to put in a 'Them' themed care package:

  • Their favorite candy/junk food
  • Their favorite movie
  • Their favorite album
  • Gift card to their favorite restaurant
  • Gift card to their favorite store
  • Notes with things you love about them
  • Your favorite pictures of them

A "You" Themed Package

Your partner might know a lot about you, but do they know everything?! Why not make an entire care package around all things YOU?! This one is tons of fun, so don’t be afraid to get creative with it.

What to put in a 'You' themed care package:

  • Pictures of you
  • Your favorite candies
  • Your favorite coffee/tea
  • Your favorite movies
  • Your favorite book
  • Your favorite piece of clothing

Birthday Care Package

birthday care package

Let’s be honest, it sucks to be away from the person you love, especially on their a day like their birthday. Why not make them a care package to show how much they mean to you, even when so far apart.

Check out: Rachel's birthday care package from Countdowns & Cupcakes.

What to put in a birthday care package:

  • Birthday card
  • Birthday party hat they must wear while opening the care package
  • Gift card to their favorite restaurant
  • Ticket to come see you (expensive!)
  • Anything they love—wrapped in birthday wrapping paper
  • Gift card to their favorite store

Anniversary Care Package

anniversary care package ideas

We’re not going to pretend that being apart is easy, but we will say that sending a care package will ease the pain a bit. Plan ahead for this one to make sure they get it on time!

What to put in an anniversary care package:

  • Anniversary card/letter
  • “What I Love About You” journal
  • Early relationship photo

Valentine's Day Care Package

valentines day care package ideas

Show your love you’re thinking of them this Valentine’s Day with a fun care package. Since you can’t be together, they’ll love having a package to open up instead!

What to put in a Valentine's Day care package:

  • A Valentine's Day card
  • Candy hearts
  • Box of chocolates
  • 21 Truth or Dare questions

Not sure what to do on Valentine's Day? Check out our 23 LDR Date Night Ideas

Halloween Care Package

halloween care package ideas

Halloween is definitely one of the most enjoyable and entertaining holidays to make a care package for! Though it may not seem as obvious a choice as Valentine’s Day or Christmas, that makes it all the more of a surprise for your honey. Don’t miss out on the pun, “I miss you boo!”

What to put in a Halloween care package:

  • Halloween decorations
  • Halloween themed candy
  • Themed gag gifts like fake spiders
  • Halloween costume
  • Your favorite horror movie 

Thanksgiving Care Package

thanksgiving care package ideas

Thanksgiving is all about appreciation, and they’re bound to feel appreciated with a surprise care package on their doorstep.

What to put in a Thanksgiving care package:

  • Fall scented candle
  • 21 reasons why you're thankful for them
  • Pumpkin spice flavored candy

Christmas Care Package

christmas care package ideas

If you’re spending the holidays apart, sending them a care package separate from the gift they are likely expecting is sure to bring them a ton of holiday cheer.

What to put in a Christmas care package:

  • Mistletoe
  • Your favorite Christmas movie
  • Advent calendar
  • Non-alcoholic Eggnog

Winter Care Package

winter care package ideas

It is scientifically proven that our mood changes as the days get shorter in winter. A care package will definitely give your partner a boost!

What to put in a winter care package:

  • Hand and feet warmers
  • Hot cocoa mix
  • Ear muffs
  • Peppermint candy
  • Vitamin D pills
  • Wool socks

Summer Care Package

summer care package ideas

Look out! Here comes another season! Summer is tons of fun, so make your significant other’s summer even better with an awesome package full of summer essentials. 

What to put in a summer care package:

  • Sunglasses
  • Hat/visor
  • Sunscreen
  • Swimsuit
  • Lemonade or Gatorade mix
  • Cooling towel
  • Freezies (pack them well!)
  • Water bottle

College Care Package 

college care package ideas

Is your partner at college? Whether they've just moved into the dorms or are stressing over finals and exams, a college care package is sure to help them.

What to put in a college care package:

  • Study snacks
  • Pens and pencils
  • Coffee
  • Travel coffee mug
  • Flash cards
  • Stress ball

Does your bestie love coffee? Check out the cute 'done for you' Coffee Addict Care Package from Huneybox!

The Sick Care Package

sick care package ideas

It can be hard when your partner is sick and you’re far away. Cheer them up and make them feel better, literally, with a care package containing everything they’ll need to feel better.

What to put in a sick care package:

  • Chicken soup mix
  • Vitamin C tablets
  • Herbal tea
  • Hot pack
  • Tissues
  • Chapstick
  • Glucose candies
  • Robe

The "I'm Coming Soon" Care Package

Hype up your visit and get your partner even more excited about your upcoming trip with a fun care package.

What to put in an 'I'm coming soon' care package:

  • List of things to do together
  • Gift card to local restaurant
  • Tickets to a show/movie
  • Picture of the two of you
  • Countdown calendar
  • Details on family members
  • Local treat or snack to try

The Essentials Care Package

hygiene care package

Care packages don’t have to be overly complex. Sometimes just sending the person you love some basics, like toiletries and clothing, is a great way to go. You know it’s definitely something they’ll put to good use.

What to put in an essentials care package:

  • Body wash
  • Toothbrush & Toothpaste
  • Shampoo & conditioner
  • Wet wipes
  • Anti-perspirant
  • Socks
  • Underwear
  • Floss!

Open When Letters Care Package

open when letters care package

We’re sure you’ve seen “Open When…” letters floating around the internet, and it’s an especially great idea of a care package. You write a series of letters to your significant other, instructing them when to open it.

This is an affordable option that’s also extremely heartfelt.

What letters to put in an 'Open When...' care package:

  • “Open when you first receive these letters” letter
  • “Open when you need a pick-me-up” letter
  • “Open when I’m not answering the phone but you need to talk” letter
  • “Open when you need a hug” letter
  • “Open when you need to know how much I care” letter
  • “Open when you feel like the distance is too much” letter
  • “Open when you’re doubting yourself” letter

Junk Food Care Package

junk food care package ideas

Sometimes people just need a treat! If your partner has been having a tough time lately, send them a nice package of junk food! It’ll be tons of fun for you to shop for, and equally as fun for them to eat.

What to put in a junk food care package:

  • Candy
  • Cookies
  • Cupcakes
  • Chips
  • Gum
  • Bakery gift card

If you're partner loves to snack but without the guilt, check out Huneybox's Afternoon Tea Care Package.

Health Food Care Package

health food care package ideas

Junk food is nice and all, but a healthy care package is a great idea if your partner is a healthy eater, or is trying to change their habits in 2019. They’ll enjoy this package because it’s from the person they love, and you're helping to keep them motivated!

What to put in a health food care package:

  • Dried fruits and nuts
  • Food scale
  • Protein bars
  • Water flavor drops

If your partner enjoys healthy snacks, don't forget to check out the Health Nut Care Package from Huneybox!

Sports Care Package

sports care package ideas

If your partner has a team they always root for, consider that team for the theme of your next care package.

What to put in a sports care package:

  • Team hat
  • Team shirt, sweatshirt, or jersey
  • Books or DVDs on team history
  • Trading cards
  • Game tickets
  • Candy in team colors
  • Past player's autobiographies

Movie Buff Care Package

movie night care package

You can customize this based on your partner's film preferences and even send a favorite movie of yours that they haven’t seen. Make sure it's the director's cut!

What to put in a movie care package:

  • Popcorn
  • Movie popcorn tin/tub
  • Movie candies (Starburst, M&Ms, Milk Duds)
  • 3D glasses
  • Your favorite movie on DVD
  • Movie theater gift card
  • Streaming service gift card
  • Poster of their favorite movie

Bookworm Care Package

book care package ideas

Fairly self explanatory! Here are a few literary care package ideas for the bookworm in your life.

What to put in a bookworm care package:

  • 1st edition of their favorite book
  • Your favorite book
  • A book from their favorite author
  • An audiobook subscription gift card

Military Care Package

military care package ideas

Having a boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse in the military can be extremely difficult, but sending a care package is one of the best ways to let them know you’re thinking about them. You can tailor the package however you want, from fun to functional.

What to put in a military care package:

  • Gloves
  • Long underwear
  • Boot laces
  • Playing cards
  • Travel board games
  • Headphones
  • Stationary
  • Hygiene/Toiletry kit

Zombie Apocalypse Care Package

zombie apocalypse care package ideas

This super awesome zombie apocalypse survival kit from Glued to My Craft deserves a special mention. If you think your significant other is the type of person to appreciate such a unique care package, you should definitely give it a go!

What to put in a zombie apocalypse care package:

  • Glow sticks
  • Flashlight
  • Duct tape
  • Military ration packs

What are your Long Distance Relationship Care Package Ideas?

Now it's your turn! Have you sent your partner, or received from them, an epic LDR care package worth raving about? Are you having trouble deciding what sort of package to send them? Feel free to drop any questions or comments below!

Lolo & Nate

Hi, we are Lolo (Canada) & Nate (Australia) a couple that had to go through all that a long distance relationship has to offer, just like you. With our experience and lessons learned we want to help you keep your long distance relationship as strong as ever and ultimately last the distance!

Click Here to Leave a Comment Below 12 comments
John R. - June 26, 2019

Thanks for this excellent article!

Being new to this whole LDR thing, I feel like I’m sailing into uncharted waters. I’ve been looking for ideas of packages to put together that I can enclose things from here (US) that she can’t get in the UK as well as other ideas. We’re only about 3 months into this thing so I’ll admit to being nervous about the whole concept. Your website has been invaluable and many of the date night ideas have been wonderful. Please accept this heartfelt thank you from the bottom of this lovesick heart. I appreciate everything you’ve put together here.

    Lolo & Nate - June 27, 2019

    Hi John,

    Wow! Thank you so much for the kind words.

    We’re glad you’re enjoying what we’re putting together and thank you for taking the time to write to us.

    A couple of ideas for you, include some candy that has an acquired taste like Big Red. It’s always fun to see their reaction :D.

    Good luck!

Deanna Thompson - August 27, 2019

Love these ideas! I’m in a LDR with the man who I intend to spend my future with. Thank you so much for the inspiration. I’m putting together a few things, first a card with some things inside, then Open When letters then eventually a care package.

    Lolo & Nate - August 28, 2019

    Hi Deanna,

    Thanks for the kind words! We’re glad you found the article useful 🙂

    Definitely come back and let us know what you put in the care package.

    Good luck!

Brittany - March 15, 2020


I am in a recent LDR, I sent Open When cards for Christmas and I am looking for care package ideas for just a surprise. This website was so much help! Thank you

    Lolo & Nate - March 17, 2020

    Thanks for the kind words Brittany!

    We’re glad you liked them.

Anna - March 20, 2020

We really liked your ideas. The Zombie Apocalypse Care Package idea is really interesting and fun. We weren’t convinced if care packages were a good idea but you clearly changed our mind.

    Lolo & Nate - March 20, 2020

    Thanks Anna,

    We really like the Zombie Apocalypse care package too!

Meisyavanias - July 1, 2020

I loooveee it for sure!!! Im in long distance relationship with my bf and I wanna surprise him. Well Thank you so much for the inspiration! I love your website, have a nice day❤️

    Lolo & Nate - July 4, 2020

    Thanks for the kind words!

    Come back and let us know what you put together for your partner.

Kaitlynn Chapman - November 24, 2020

This helped a lot, Thank you! I am in a Lesbian Long Distance Relationship, USA to Australia, and this is our first Christmas so this helped so much!

    Lolo & Nate - November 24, 2020

    Hi Kaitlynn,

    Thank you for the kind words, we’re glad it helped 🙂

    Good luck & happy holidays!


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