Need to buzz off? Here’s our TL;DR breakdown of the best remote control vibrators for long distance couples:
Our Top Choice
Nora by Lovense
Most popular remote control vibrator for long distance couples in 2023. Currently up to 50% off!
Popular Alternative
Pearl 2 by Kiiroo
Industry leading touch sensitive tech & partner device control creates realistic sensations.
Latest Wearable Tech
Lush 3 by Lovense
A powerful & super quiet wearable vibrator you can control from anywhere. Also up to 50% off!
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Fact: Long distance couples spend more time apart than together.
An unfortunate result is that intimacy takes a back seat. But not for the reasons you might think.
It’s because many people don’t know the tools and resources that are available to help.
That’s why we’ve put together this list of remote control and bluetooth vibrators that can make it feel like the distance between you has vanished.
How Remote Control Vibrators Work
Remote control vibrators connect to an external bluetooth remote, which allow you to control the intensity of vibration, rhythm and other settings.
These remotes are usually smartphone (and sometimes computer) apps that you can download. Apps are what allow your partner to control your vibrator from anywhere in the world, as long as there is an internet connection.
To note: It’s important to know that the 13 options we dive into are not only for long distance play. They also have solo and local control capabilities through their apps, making them great options for everyone.
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Remote Control Vibrators by Lovense
Lovense have been at the forefront of bluetooth and app controlled vibrators for over 10 years.
During this time they’ve not only created a range of options but they’ve continued to update them with better features and technology, which they proudly display on their product pages.
Lovense also continues to develop an amazing remote experience for local and long distance play through their application, Lovense Remote.
Lovense Remote App
Tap & Slide Remote Control
Long Distance Control
Sync to Music
The screenshots above are just three of the many ways you or your partner can control Lovense devices through the app. Others include:
- Traditional remote control (levels 1 to 5)
- Sound activated control (voice or ambient sounds), and
- Session recording for future use!
You wont need to worry about your device being compatible. Lovense Remote is available on iOS (includes Apple Watch) and Android devices plus Macs and PCs.
It’s a super simple app to use and pairs seamlessly with their range of bluetooth vibrators below.
Nora: Rabbit Vibrator
If you are looking for a device that can stimulate more than one area at a time then the Nora could be for you.
Known as the first bluetooth rabbit vibrator on the market, which is now in its 6th generation, Nora has two arms to focus on different areas. The larger arm for vaginal or g-spot stimulation and the shorter arm for clitoral stimulation.
It is made from medical grade silicone and ABS plastic making them 100% body safe.
Nora Features We Like
- The main arm has a rotating head with three speeds for easy G-spot stimulation.
- The second arm is flexible, allowing you to position it perfectly.
- Vibration modes such as: Pulse, Wave, Fireworks & Earthquake.
To note: For long distance couples who want to be intimate together, Nora can control and be controlled by other Lovense devices such as another Nora or Lovense’s male stroker the Max 2.
Important Nora Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Pink/White
Charge Time: 2.5 hours
Usage Time: 3 to 4 hours
Waterproof: Splashproof
Warranty: 1 year
Lush 3: Wearable Vibrator
It doesn’t look like a regular remote controlled vibrator, and for good reason!
The Lush 3 was created to be a wearable vibrator (also known as an egg or bullet vibrator), meaning you can use it in and out of the bedroom. Lovense specifically designed the head for maximum pleasure and comfort but to also safely stay in place, wherever you are.
As this is a device someone may wear for long periods of time, it’s important to know it’s made from pure body safe silicone. Making it non-porous and very easy to clean.
Lush 3 Features We Like
- Lush 3 also includes a local remote on the other end for solo play or when you don’t have access to the app.
- The vibrating motor is super quiet, max 43 dB, so no one will hear it.
- It’s also 4x more powerful than most wearable vibrators.
- Can be controlled via an Apple Watch.
Important Lush 3 Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Pink
Charge Time: 1 to 1.5 hours
Usage Time: 2.5 to 5 hours
Waterproof: Yes
Warranty: 1 year
Want to learn more before pulling the trigger? Check out our in-depth review of the Lush 3 and see why we think it’s one of the best remote control vibrators available today.
Ambi: Bullet Vibrator
Bullet vibrators are usually very simple, but Lovense has taken it a step further with the Ambi, which was designed to be used during solo play, long distance play and intercourse.
The head has three zones for different types of stimulation:
- Broad
- Pinpoint, and
- Super pinpoint.
The unique design also makes it easy to use. In Lovense’s words:
“In most positions, it is incredibly hard to keep a bullet vibrator in the right spot. You have to twist your hand and the movement makes that difficult. Ambi’s curves complement yours and help you keep the vibrator in the right spot.”
Ambi Features We Like
- Versatile design making it super easy to hold comfortably in multiple positions.
- Powerful vibrating motor (4x as powerful as most regular bullet vibrators).
- Small size makes it easy to conceal at home or when out in public (bag).
Important Ambi Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Pink
Charge Time: 1.5 hours
Usage Time: 1 to 2 hours
Waterproof: Yes
Warranty: 1 year
Osci 2: G-Spot Vibrator
Introduced in 2017, the Osci was the first of its kind. Now the 2nd generation Osci 2 has pushed the bar even higher.
Osci, which is short for ‘oscillating’ is a vibration that moves in and out rather than just rumbling. This feature is patented by Lovense and gives you a new and unique way to stimulate the G-spot.
The oscillating technology is also very energy efficient, giving the Osci 2 a usage time of up to five hours!
Osci 2 Features We Like
- Osci 2 has a curved design for a more comfortable fit.
- The larger oval shaped head makes it easier to pinpoint and stimulate different zones.
- No app? No worries, it includes a local remote on the end for solo play.
Important Osci 2 Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone & ABS plastic (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Pink
Charge Time: 1.5 hours
Usage Time: 2.5 to 5 hours
Waterproof: Yes
Warranty: 1 year
For more information on the Osci 2, head on over to the official Lovense website.
To note: Lovense run good promotions from time to time. They are usually visible when you reach their store pages.
Remote Control Vibrators by Kiiroo
Founded out of Amsterdam in 2013, Kiiroo is another company that has focused on bluetooth sex toys. Over the years they have created some of the best selling devices and have continued to develop their brand by partnering with companies like OhMiBod and Fleshlight.
Kiiroo has won countless awards over the years due to their impressive technological development. A critical part of this success has been the FeelConnect app.
FeelConnect App
Pairing Your Device
Interactive Content Connect
Partner Device Pairing
FeelConnect is only available on iOS and Android devices, so unlike Lovense, you won’t be able to use a desktop or laptop computer. This shouldn’t be an issue as almost everyone will have a compatible smartphone.
The screenshots show your connectivity options, which is a very straightforward and guided process for each option. But what isn’t highlighted is the huge amount of interactive content, local and sound control capabilities that really make the app controlled vibrators below stand out from the crowd.
Partner Device Pairing
Kiiroo has incorporated special sensors in all of their products, that allows them to connect to and control the movements of another Kiiroo device, which is perfect for long distance couples.
Pearl 2: G-Spot Vibrator
The Pearl 2 is an elegantly designed wireless vibrator. In many ways it looks like a simple device but it packs some impressive features.
Using touch-sensitive technology, Kiiroo has created a ‘smart toy’ that reacts to your body’s natural movements. What this means is that the Pearl 2 understands what you’re doing, move deeper and the vibrations will intensify, pull out and they become more subtle.
Made from body-safe silicone gives it a very smooth and skin-like texture, which provides a comfortable feel.
Pearl 2 Features We Like
- Multifunction button allows for solo play if you don’t have access to the app.
- Form factor makes it easy to use and focus on your sensitive zones.
Important Pearl 2 Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone & ABS plastic (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Black, Purple
Charge Time: 2 hours
Usage Time: 1 hour
Waterproof: Yes
Warranty: 1 year
Fuse: Rabbit Vibrator
Kiiroo’s Fuse is a remote controlled rabbit vibrator that would make a great option for anyone who is after dual stimulation.
The team has created an impressive g-spot and clitoral stimulator, which also incorporates their touch sensitive technology (as seen above in the Pearl 2).
Where the Fuse stands out from other rabbit vibrators is it’s dual motors. Many competitors only incorporate one motor in the main arm. Kiiroo have gone a step further to make sure the Fuse provides the experience you’re looking for.
Fuse Features We Like
- LED light illuminates with different brightness levels and colors to create visual feedback.
- Specially designed to pair with Kiiroo’s flagship male toy, the KEON.
Important Fuse Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone & PU coated ABS plastic (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Black, Pink
Charge Time: 2 hours
Usage Time: 1 hour
Waterproof: Splashproof
Warranty: 1 year
Esca 2: Wearable Vibrator
If you are interested in an intimate option that’s so discrete that it can be used and controlled anywhere, the Esca 2 is here.
Kiiroo’s wearable vibrator has recently been updated to provide an even better experience. The second generation model has an improved vibrating motor, faster charging and 3x more usage time. All while keeping the same weight and size!
Made from body-safe materials the Esca 2 has been built to be worn for long periods of time and is specifically designed so you don’t have to worry about it ‘falling out’.
Esca 2 Features We Like
- Improved ergonomic design to rest comfortably against the g-spot.
- LED for visual feedback (similar to the Fuse).
- Reinforced tail that helps provide a stronger bluetooth connection.
Important Esca 2 Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone & ABS plastic (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Purple
Charge Time: 1.5 hours
Usage Time: 3 hours
Waterproof: Splashproof
Warranty: 1 year
Cliona: Clitoral Stimulator
If you’re someone that is more interested in clitoral stimulation over vaginal or g-spot stimulation, the Cliona could be what you’re looking for.
Kiiroo have created a pocket sized wireless vibrator that delivers serious power. At just 4.5 inches long, the Cliona is compact and will fit perfectly in a purse or small bag for when you’re not at home.
You will also notice it has an interesting design and that’s for good reason. The team at Kiiroo understand that every body is different so the Cliona was built to be used from every angle.
This also wouldn’t be possible if it wasn’t 100% waterproof!
Cliona Features We Like
- Local controls allow you to use the Cliona for solo or manual play.
- Ergonomic design means anyone can enjoy it no matter your body type.
Important Cliona Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone & ABS plastic (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Pink
Charge Time: 2 hours
Usage Time: 1 hour
Waterproof: Yes
Warranty: 1 year
To note: We mentioned earlier that Kiiroo’s devices can connect and control each other, which opens up a world of options for long distance couples that are looking for new ways to be intimate with each other while apart.
This includes opposite sex and same sex couples!
Onyx+ & Pearl 2
KEON & Fuse
Fuse & Pearl 2
For more information, check out our article on connected sex toys for couples in long distance relationships.
Remote Control Vibrators by We-Vibe
Since launching in 2018, the Canadian based We-Vibe have created some of the most awarded adult products. In that time, over 2 million people have enjoyed their range of remote controlled vibrators.
One aspect we really like about We-Vibe is their focus their customer’s sexual health and wellness. By working closely with sexual wellness experts, doctors and consumers, they continue to develop products that work.
And of course they work especially well with their We-Connect app.
We-Connect App
Vibration Modes
Partner Control
Beats Vibration Mode
We-Connect creates an immersive experience by giving you or your partner full control.
The pairing process is very quick and once connected there are many features to play with.
You or your partner can:
- Move through the different vibration modes, and increase or decrease the intensity.
- Create unique vibrations via touch mode.
- Create custom playlists and use music to control the rhythm.
- Chat securely together via text or video without needing another app.
We-Connect works seamlessly with the products below.
We-Vibe Sync: Clitoral & G-Spot Vibrator
The We-Vibe Sync is a dual stimulating g-spot and clitoral vibrator. Many other devices in this space are usually much larger, which gives the Sync a unique selling point.
While we really like the compact design, what really makes the Sync stand out is the adjustable fit.
No two bodies are the same and the Sync allows you to adjust what areas it focuses on to make sure you get the best experience possible.
We-Vibe have added a separate remote control so you don’t have to keep touching the sync, to adjust the rhythm or intensity. This makes it a truely wearable vibrator.
Sync Features We Like
- The Sync comes with a hard storage enclosure, which is also a charging base.
- Has also been designed to be used during sex with your partner.
- Comes with a lubricant sample, so it’s ready to be sued out of the box!
Important Sync Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone exterior (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Purple, Aqua
Charge Time: 2 hours
Usage Time: 1.5 hours
Waterproof: Yes
Warranty: 2 years
Nova: Rabbit Vibrator
From the image above you can see that the Nova looks similar to other rabbit vibrators, but there is something about it that makes it a little more interesting.
The shape and size of the smaller arm that delivers clitoral stimulation has a very unique feature.
It flexes!
When you insert Nova the clitoral arm will flex or bend to keep a consistent amount of pressure on that zone.
Like other remote control rabbit vibrators we’ve mentioned, the Nova has a powerful vibrating motor in each arm. You or your partner can then adjust the intensity and rhythm with 10 pre-set vibration modes (some are only available on the Nova).
Nova Features We Like
- Low-power indicator will make sure you don’t stop suddenly during play.
- Dual whisper-quiet motors let you be discreet.
- We have to mention the flexible arm again, making this a truly unique option.
Important Nova Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Pink & White
Charge Time: 1.5 hours
Usage Time: 2 hours
Waterproof: Yes
Warranty: 2 years
Jive: Wearable Vibrator
If you’re interested in wearable vibrators, it makes sense to spend a little more time researching the options available to you. If you want to wear it for long periods, it needs to be comfortable and form fitting.
The Jive just might be what you’re looking for.
We-Vibe industrial designers and engineers teamed up with sexual wellness experts and doctors to create a contoured shape. Pairing this with body-safe silicone creates a silky smooth and comfortable fit.
The piece at the end that stays outside of the body is known as the ‘retrieval stem’, which has been designed to be flexible and will bend to form to the outside of your body so no one will know you’re wearing it.
Jive Features We Like
- 100% waterproof, which is a must for toys used over long (continuous) periods.
- Contoured design means it will stay in place when you’re moving around.
- Compact design makes it super discreet even when traveling.
Important Jive Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Blue
Charge Time: 1.5 hours
Usage Time: 2 hours
Waterproof: Yes
Warranty: 2 Years
Remote Control Vibrators by Vibease
Just like the other companies we’ve mentioned, Vibease has devoted thousands of hours in research and development to producing high quality bluetooth sex toys.
Their devices have similar solo and partner control features. But where Vibease has created a point of difference is the type of interactive content they create.
Book worms, read on!
The Vibease App
Audiobook Selection
Partner Control
Secure Video Chat
Vibease offers a massive collection of romantic and erotic stories that you can listen to while playing. Their first device we talk about was made with this feature in mind.
When it comes to long distance couples, the app also offers easy to use partner controls and secure video and text chat options so you don’t need to use another app like Skype or FaceTime.
The Original Vibease: Clitoral Stimulator
Creating a compact yet powerful device can be difficult, but the team at Vibease have managed to pull it off. Their original remote control vibrator is a popular choice with customers coming from all across the world and it’s easy to see why.
The unique design allows the user to wear it for extended periods of time. With the addition of the ‘tip’ to the original Vibease vibrator, it sits comfortably and helps it to stay in position against the clitoris.
Who wants to keep adjusting their toy, which can completely ruin the experience?
Vibease Features We Like
- Designed specifically to be enjoyed hand-free while listening to erotic audiobooks.
- Compact and lightweight design mean you can use it anytime and anywhere.
- Whisper quiet vibrating motor, which is a must if using outside of your home.
Important Vibease Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Pink, Purple
Charge Time: 1-2 hours
Usage Time: 3 hours
Waterproof: No
Warranty: 1 Year
Want your pleasure to be controlled by your partner in or outside the home? Or would you rather snuggle up with an erotic novel? Whichever it is, the original Vibease will do the trick. To find out more, click here to visit the official Vibease website.
Want to learn more about Vibease? See our in-depth Vibease Review and find out why it’s a great option for couples wanting to level up their long distance intimacy.
Esthesia: Rabbit Vibrator
If the Vibease erotic audiobook selection looks exciting, but you want a more versatile device, then say hello to the Esthesia.
Esthesia is Vibease’s flagship rabbit vibrator, which provides dual clitoral and g-spot stimulation. The classic yet ergonomic design has curves that will work with your body, it also has some flexibilty, allowing you to adjust the power to where you want it.
Unlike other rabbit vibrators we’ve mentioned that are only splashproof, the Esthesia is completely waterproof allowing you to play in the bath or shower if you prefer.
Esthesia Features We Like
- Whisper quiet dual vibrating motors (as used in the original Vibease).
- Elegant design makes it look less intense or futuristic.
- Fast charge time compared to other similar devices.
Important Esthesia Specs:
Materials: Body-safe silicone (BPA, phthalates & latex free)
Colors: Pink, Purple
Charge Time: 1 hour
Usage Time: 3 hours
Waterproof: Yes
Warranty: 1 Year
Before Buying A Remote Control Vibrator
It’s important to stop and take a little time to understand what options will suit your needs. Before making the big purchase, we’ve put together a few points to think about:
A Quick Note On Consent
If you are looking to use your new device with a long distance partner, or are purchasing one for them. It’s important to make sure you’re both comfortable going down this path.
Intimacy over the internet is not for everyone. So please take the time to talk about it together so you’re both on the same page.
Sizing Help
Sizing can be difficult. You want something that’s going to be pleasurable but also comfortable, so picking the right size is important. That’s why we have included sizing information for all of the options we’ve included.
The two measurements that you should take note of are the width and length.
- Width should be a measurement of the widest part that is insertable.
- Length will usually be the whole device but you should pay attention to the ‘insertable length’.
A simple rule to follow is that if you see a device that you think is too big, it is likely to be the case.
Stimulation
Answering this question will give you the exact type of remote control vibrator that’s perfect for your needs.
What gets you off?
- Clitoral stimulation: Remote controlled bullet vibrators and wands.
- Vaginal stimulation: Wearable & G-spot vibrators.
- Combination: Rabbit vibrators.
If you prefer anal stimulation, check out our article on the best remote controlled butt plugs.
Usage Scenarios
There is usually two scenarios to consider:
- Using your device inside the home.
- Using your device outside the home.
If you’re going to be using your device at home, other than stimulation, think about where you might use it. If it’s in the bath or shower, make sure it’s waterproof.
If you are wanting to use it in public and be discreet, then wearable vibrators, with long battery life, are your best option.
Connecting To Other Toys
All of the wireless and bluetooth vibrators we’ve mentioned work perfectly on their own for solo and manual play. But some also have the ability connect, control and be controlled by other toys.
This is perfect for opposite and same-sex couples that are separated by distance and want to be intimate together.
For more details on how certain devices work together, check out our article on long distance sex toys for LDR couples.
Allergies
Some cheap adult products have been found to use materials that might have adverse affects on the body when used.
It’s important to make sure the devices you’re considering buying include information that states they are body-safe.
This means they use materials that are non-porous (won’t store bacteria) and non-toxic (won’t leech into the body), which is typically 100% silicone and ABS plastic.
As a guide, stay away from products that contain latex, jelly, PVC, and vinyl, plus any scented or dyed sex toys.
To note: The products we have mentioned above use Body Safe materials ONLY, like medical grade silicone. They DO NOT include latex, jelly, PVC or vinyl.
Cleaning Tips
It’s definitely not the sexiest part of owning an adult toy but for your safety, you need to make sure it’s cleaned properly.
Products from the companies above will include cleaning instruction with the device and they should also be available online.
Here are a few key tips to follow:
- Wipe down your toy before use.
- Clean with warm water and mild soap after use.
- Dry it thoroughly with a clean towel.
- Store in a clean and dry place.
- Keep it away from extreme temperatures.
Our Recommended Remote Control Vibrator
Because everyone’s likes and dislikes are different, plus no two bodies are the same, It’s hard to select one option as the best.
But we do recommend the range of remote control vibrators from Lovense.
Simply because:
- They have been in the industry for 10+ years.
- All products go through strict quality control, but most importantly,
- They have something for everyone.
No matter what kind of stimulation you’re into, whether you want to play on your own or with your long distance partner. They have what you need:
Looking for clitoral stimulation? Check out the Ambi bullet vibrator and Domi wand.
Wanting vaginal stimulation? Check out the Osci 2 g-spot vibrator and Lush 3 wearable vibrator.
Or do you prefer dual stimulation? Check out the Nora rabbit vibrator.
Lovense For Long Distance Couples
While your long distance partner can control any of the Lovense products above. The Nora rabbit vibrator is the option that can connect to another Nora or their male stroker, Max 2.
We are not only proud to support Lovense because of the work they are doing to connect long distance couples, but also because of their inclusion of the LGBTQ+ community.
Click here to visit the official Lovense website and learn more about their story.
Now It’s Your Turn
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