Fall in love all over again with our FREE 7 day LDR challenge!

Unlock better date nights, deeper communication plus a stronger intimate & emotional connection.

Loved by over 50,000 long distance couples!

We respect your privacy & you can unsubscribe at any time.

Lasting The Distance is reader-supported. We may earn a commission if you buy through links on our site. Learn more about our approach.

14 Best Free Valentine’s Day Gifts That Will Melt Their Heart

Lisa McKay | Updated: October 10, 2023

Yep, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. It’s creeping up FAST, and you’re probably in the same position as last year…

​I have no freaking idea what to buy!?

​But who said you have to buy?

If you’re strapped for cash and time. There are FREE Valentine’s Day gifts you can pour your heart and soul into.

The best part? They will likely cherish it even more than something you pulled off a shelf.

To help, we’ve created a comprehensive list of gifts you can make for Valentine’s Day. Let’s get cracking!

free valentine's day gifts pinterest image

Free Valentine’s Day gifts they’ll love (your hip pocket too!)

1. Make a slideshow starring you

You probably have hundreds, maybe thousands of digital photos of the two of you smiling and smooching and doing fun things. Create a slideshow that tells the story of your relationship and showcases some of your highlights. Set it to music, load it up, and you’ve got something you can both watch again and again.

2. Tell them why you love them

Use the alphabet to name things that you love or admire about your partner. For example, beside “A” you might write: “you Appreciate other people”. Beside B you might write: “you are Brave”. Your partner will love receiving this.

You could also use Post-It notes to do this. Enlist the help of a colleague or roommate. After you’ve filled out a stack of notes, send these Post-It notes to your accomplice and ask him or her to plant them around your love’s office or dorm room for them to find on Valentine’s Day.

3. Make a playlist

Yes, this is the new and improved version of “make them a mixed tape”. Pick music you think your love will enjoy. Organize them into a Spotify playlist (or use another playlist website) so your SO can play during their commute or while they’re making dinner at the end of a long day.

This TechApp piece tells you how to make and share music playlists online legally.

Need song suggestions? Check out our article on the best long distance relationship songs that will bring you closer together.

4. Send the scent of you

Did you know that your sense of smell can unleash powerful emotions and memories? That’s because the nerves that conduct information about smell link straight into the area of your brain that is involved with creating memories and processing emotion. You can tap into this to your advantage by sending your beloved something that smells like you. Take a shirt that you already own, wear it, spray on some more perfume, aftershave, or deodorant and send it to them.

5. Write open-when letters

This is the gift that keeps on giving for weeks, months and even years (depending on how much you write). All you really need to create open when letters is some stationary, some envelopes, and a pen.

Stuck for topic ideas? we have a ton of open when letter ideas (sexy ones too!) that will get your creative juices flowing.

6. Make and send cookies

It’s always fun to get sweet treats in the mail from your significant other. It’s even more special if they actually made them. If you’re strapped for cash, roll up your sleeves and grab a rolling pin.

You could always make the traditional crowd favorite, chocolate chip cookies. However, if you’d like to get a little more adventurous (or if your partner lives far away) try this recipe for Anzac Biscuits. They don’t go stale fast, so women in Australia and New Zealand used to bake these and send them to their army partners who were serving overseas during World War I.

7. Give them IOUs

My family moved a lot while we were growing up, and receiving an IOU in place of an actual present became a bit of a family tradition. I can’t say we enjoyed getting IOUs at Christmas, but I now believe that the good old IOU has its place, and that place is planning fun experiences.

Research has shown that money can buy you happiness if you spend it in on moments, not stuff, so get thinking about the sorts of moments that make good presents. What would be something special that you could do together during your next visit? A spa day with couples massages? Dinner out somewhere classy? Musical tickets? A hot air balloon ride?

If you want to keep this gift free, give your partner IOUs for all sorts of different personal moments served up by you (a half-hour massage given by you, a free pass out of cleaning up after a meal, etc).

8. Give them time and attention

Suggest that you have a regular “themed” virtual date night once a week for a month. You pick the themes together. You could choose a book for you both to read and discuss, pick something to watch together on YouTube, find a series of questions to ask or answer, or play online games. There are so many ways to fill four dates with fun moments that go beyond daily chatter.

Need ideas? Check out our article on the best activities and ideas for long distance couples to do while apart.

9. Make them a message in a bottle

Got a wine bottle lying around? Wash it out, get creative and make your very own message in a bottle!

Put a personal note inside or a special poem. If you want to get uber-creative you could create a puzzle or draw a personal treasure map. What sort of treasure would you want them to find? Well, that’s for you to decide.

10. Send personal “kind notes” for a week

Email them every day for the week leading up to Valentine’s Day with a personal “kind note”.

Pick a quote about love or a poem. Tell them something that made you think of them this week. Share a special moment from the past involving them. Send them your ABCD list of things you love about them. Remember to save the best for last and end with a bang on Valentine’s Day.

11. Send a scavenger care-package

If you’d like to do Valentine’s Day or your anniversary on a budget this year, think about creating a scavenger care-package.

Put together a care-package present from things you already own. You could include a book or CD they might like. What about some cold and flu medication, Vitamin C tablets, and a packet of instant chicken noodle soup for the next time they get a cold? You could send a stuffed animal, that bar of chocolate you’ve been saving for a rainy day, or a kitchen utensil you know they need.

This gift is limited only by your imagination, your belongings, and the size of your box. A note of caution, though: Scavenger care packages work best if the other person knows what you’re doing and why. So don’t forget to tell your partner what the game is. Better yet, why don’t you agree to both send scavenger care packages this year.

We love care packages: So much so that we created an in-depth article on different long distance care package ideas that you can create!

12. Get crafty

Not everyone can sew, knit, or woodwork. But if you’re crafty, or at least want to give it a go, this is the perfect option for you.

One of the most romantic gifts I ever received was a handmade wooden box with my initials carved into the lid. Inside the box were a dozen, laminated, photographs of sunsets.

Did this gift cost him much (apart from time) to make? No. The wood came from a fallen tree on his family’s property. He took the photos himself. But I still remember this gift more than 20 years later. So get thinking, and then get creative.

13. Make paper Valentine fortune cookies

You don’t have to be super-crafty to follow the instructions in this blog post and make your own, cute, fortune cookies. Use some gift paper you already have and make a dozen lovey-dovey fortune cookies for your partner. This is another gift you can hide around their room or dorm for them to find in installments.

14. Make a love journal

If you have a blank notebook lying around, think about repurposing it as a love journal. Cover it with wrapping paper or decorate it some other way. If you’re in a long distance relationship, bring it with you on visits or trips. Trade it back and forth and use it to write notes or letters to each other. You can also use it to keep a scrapbook of your experiences together. If you write one note to each other during every visit, it won’t be long before your little book will be overflowing with love and memories.

If you’re living together, try writing a note to each other every month for an entire year. At the end of the year you’ll have a treasure trove of memories to look back on together.

Will You Make a Free Valentine’s Day Gift This Year?

Whether you have some money to burn or you’re on a strict budget, I hope this list has given you plenty of inspiration for free Valentine’s Day gifts and different ways to say “I love you”.

Want more inspiration? Don’t forget to check out our list of long distance Valentine’s Day gifts that aren’t cheesy! Plus our in-depth list of the best long distance relationship gifts that are perfect for every occasion.


Lisa McKay author image for bio
Lisa McKay is an award-winning author and psychologist. She is also the founder of Modern Love Long Distance, now a part of Lasting The Distance. Drawing upon her own extensive experience with long distance relationships, Lisa helps couples navigate LDR pitfalls and forge meaningful, enduring connections across the miles.
Fall in love all over again with our FREE 7 day LDR challenge!

Unlock better date nights, deeper communication plus a stronger intimate & emotional connection.

Loved by over 50,000 long distance couples!

We respect your privacy & you can unsubscribe at any time.