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4 Key Pieces Of Long Distance Relationship Advice For Guys

Lucas Knight | Updated: February 11, 2024

Why do long distance relationships seem easier for some guys and not others?

It all comes down to understanding the right ways to approach the most common obstacles.

But there’s a problem…

Most of us don’t know what to do EVEN when we’re in the thick of it. It’s only once it’s over can we look at it from another angle and think of how we could have navigated the situation differently.

It’s time to change that. Here’s our long distance relationship advice for guys to better navigate the road ahead.

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1. Having the right mindset and attitude

In just a few words, this means treating the relationship as a real relationship, and being curious about the future of the relationship in the face of uncertainty instead of being afraid.

Also choosing to be happy in your love lives NOW, instead of suffering now and waiting to be happy when you meet or close the distance.

This brings us to another mindset which is “enjoying” the intensity of long distance love. There are very few things in life that make us really feel something like a long distance relationship can. It’s odd to describe but the high and lows need to acknowledged AND enjoyed.

2. Adapting and adjusting how you communicate

This means establishing the means of connection and getting good at connecting/communicating in each particular case.

I like to call a long distance relationship – “The 5-in-1 Relationship”. Simply because we connect with each other mainly through five different means or mediums:

Some couples use all of these forms of communication, others just a few of them. The important part is GETTING GOOD at communicating right in each of the forms that you chose.

For example, learning how to text in an attractive way. Like sending different types of texts, not sending to many texts to suffocate your partner (especially when she’s not answering), not freaking out when not getting a quick text reply, and so on.

Guys need to learn to:

By mastering each of these connection forms, long distance dating can be really fun and easy.

3. Learn To Navigate Problems and Conflict

Like any other relationship, a variety of problems are going to pop up. Plus a few more due to the distance.

You don’t necessarily need to know how to overcome them. But being willing and open to figuring out the best way to navigate them can have a big impact on the survival rates of long distance relationships.

Examples of such problems include overwhelming jealousy, constant fights, boring conversations, fading of their partners attraction, discouragement from being apart for so long.

The good news is that each of these problems have been faced and overcome by other couples from whom we can learn from.

Want a great place to start? Check out our LDR Support Group that is completely free to join.

4. Work Hard To Keep The Spark Alive

As you’ve already seen, my approach to keeping love alive, simply put, consists of balancing satisfaction and challenge. I believe this is the most optimal and practical way to make love work consciously instead of guessing the love recipe.

You want to satisfy your partner by being romantic and loving with them – “speaking” their love language, showing that you care daily, and overall looking constantly for ways to contribute to their life.

But, you need to learn to balance satisfaction with challenge, by having standards and boundaries, building curiosity, playfully teasing your partner, adding diversity in the relationship, and much more.

What’s The Result?

  1. Having the right mindset allows guys to believe in their long distance relationships.
  2. Knowing how to connect and communication makes long distance dating fun and easy.
  3. Navigating problems early makes long distance dating less stressful, and
  4. Keeping love alive makes it all worth the effort!

Now the question is…

Is your long distance relationship worth it and are you willing to put in the effort that’s necessary to make it work?


Lucas Knight author image for bio
Hailing from Amsterdam, Lucas is a Long Distance Intimacy Contributor at Lasting The Distance, focusing on male sexual health. His goal is to help remove the stigma around men (in long distance relationships or not) using adult devices in the bedroom while improving their confidence to explore their sexual needs AND wants.
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